Should I discuss my late partner on a date?

By | April 25, 2016

We have been asked this question a few times now, and in all honesty, there isn’t one simple answer.

While honesty is very important in any relationship and on any date, there are probably many details about your life you wouldn’t feel comfortable sharing with somebody you meet for the first time, or are just getting to know.

Probably the most inevitable question you will be asked on a date, is “why are you single”. Of course it’s entirely up to you to how you answer that.

We recently saw what happened when widower Ted met divorcee Marianne on the popular Channel 4 dating show ‘First Dates‘. Ted had been a widower for some 3 years. The date went well for a little while, until Ted mentioned his late wife, after which, he couldn’t seem to get off the subject. We could see Marianne empathised with Ted, but still wasn’t too comfortable after a while. At the end of the date, Marianne told Ted she didn’t think he was over his late wife, and probably wasn’t ready to move on.

If you are a widower,and your date asks why you are single, tell them, but maybe don’t dwell on the issue and try moving the conversation to to ‘now’ and ‘our date’.

Have a great date.

Channel 4 First Dates

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